In typical Red Tent Sisters fashion, we're on a mission to reclaim a traditionally consumerist holiday and turn it into an opportunity to practice some self-love.
If you're on our newsletter, you've probably heard that one of our great joys is taking things that have been commercialized and stripped of originality and finding ways to infuse them with meaning and heart. Valentine's Day is a perfect example of such an occasion when a revamp is in order.
Perhaps you are single, recently broken hearted, or just find the idea of chocolate and roses too trivial a way to honour the love in your life.
We feel that the most important love we have is the love we give to ourselves. Without it we run into a constant cycle of over-giving and exhaustion that leaves us depleted and unable to offer our gifts to the world. That's why the suggestions below are all things you can do by yourself, although they'd also be fun to do with a partner or friend.
- Dance. Whether you're in a crowded club, or grooving solo in your kitchen, dancing is a way of giving thanks and appreciation for the gift of having a body. A body enables you to experience pleasure, sexuality, sensuality... all things worth celebrating! If you're looking for an inclusive space to dance with others, we suggest checking out No Lights No Lycra. We haven't had a chance to go yet, but we've heard amazing things and we love the concept: no lights, no lycra, no teacher, no steps to learn, no technique, just free movement. We often attend a similar event in Toronto called The Move, but the No Lights No Lycra is worldwide so you can check here to see if there's one in your hometown. Amy is currently taking Argentine tango classes which is a fun option if you have a partner and want a more formal dance experience, or Kim loves to go to Nia with friends (if you're in Toronto, we highly recommend taking a class with Jenn Hicks).
- Listen. Valentine's Day is also known as V-Day, a worldwide event where people share their stories through the Vagina Monologues. It is easy to find an event near you and this is a great way to listen to other people's voices, and in the process perhaps help find your own. If you're in Toronto, we highly recommend checking out Bed Post: An Erotic Magazine Performed Live. It's a monthly performance series featuring erotica readings, burlesque, comedy, and "sexpert" advice (often provided by yours truly). They also have a weekly podcast.
- Touch. Speaking of vagina monologues, we'll be talking about vaginas, penises, and other sexy anatomy tomorrow night during Kim's webinar "The Sex Ed Class You Never Had." If you're looking to connect more deeply with your own sexual desire, or increase your confidence pleasuring a partner, this one hour free webinar is filled with inspiration. Or, maybe Valentine's is a good opportunity to treat yourself to a body-safe, eco-friendly sexuality product to help facilitate some sexual exploration.
- Write. Recently our friend Danette shared the details of her annual birthday letter writing ritual, in which she writes a letter to herself to be opened on the following birthday. We've been meaning to follow her lead and try this ourselves. If you've missed the boat on a recent birthday, why not use Valentine's Day instead? Here's an example of a love letter to oneself by the talented writer, Carrie Klassen. Danette is also running an erotic writing workshop in Toronto right now! It started last week but if you're interested we suggest getting in touch so you can be the first to know when the next session begins.
- Share. Speaking of writing, Creative Living expert Jamie Ridler is launching her Give A Girl A Journal project this month, and she is having a blog hop extravaganza on February 14th. What a great opportunity to share the value of journalling and support a project that will enhance the lives of young girls! Post what journalling has meant to you (we'll be sharing our own videos about this soon) or hop on over to other people's blog posts to lend your support. The most powerful element of journalling for us is that it provides a safe space to express those tender parts of ourselves - the parts that we don't want others to see. The writing process allows us to take that first step towards being vulnerable with others. In the words of Brené Brown: "We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known."
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Kim & Amy Sedgwick love to discuss sex, periods, and all the other things we’re not supposed to talk about. The co-founders of Red Tent Sisters and ecosex.ca, they’ve been featured in every major Canadian news outlet and have become a trusted resource for women seeking natural (effective!) birth control, a more joyful sex life, and an empowered journey to motherhood.