If you’ve ever taken one of my workshops, you know I can be a little lube obsessed. Why? It can make all types of play more comfortable (and fun!) When it comes to anal play, it’s an absolute necessity (the anus doesn’t self-lubricate) and a woman’s natural arousal fluid can vary for any number of reasons – where she is in her cycle, medication, breast-feeding, menopause. Bottom line, lube is your friend. That said, finding the right lube can be tricky – many of them are filled with chemicals that aren’t great for your body and can actually cause an allergic reaction. Here are a few tips to make it easier:
1. Glycerine has been known to increase the chance of yeast infections so if you’re planning to use the lube vaginally, choose a glycerine-free option. I can’t tell you how many women have switched to a glycerine-free lube and discovered their yeast infection went away.
2. Try to find a paraben-free lubricant. Parabens are a preservative used in lots of body-care products and there’s evidence they’re an endocrine disrupter (meaning they disrupt the hormonal balance of the body).
3. Lots of guys like oil-based lubricants for masturbation, but they’re not compatible with condoms and dental dams, plus they can disrupt the pH of the vagina. So if you want a more versatile lubricant, I suggest sticking with water or silicone.
4. While flavoured lubricants can be fun, keep in mind that sugars are not vagina-friendly. Your best bet is to go with a lubricant like Hathor that uses stevia instead of sugar.
5. Even paraben-free and glyercine-free lubricants can still have lots of other ingredients that aren’t great for your body (there’s a lot of greenwashing going on) so make sure to read the full ingredient list. When in doubt, shop at stores with knowledgeable staff where you can ask for a recommendation.
Here are our top picks for body-safe lubricants:
1. Our favourite lube is Hathor. Not only does it have a nice consistency (not too thick, not too thin), it’s also made by a mother-daughter team in Vancouver and contains horny goatweed, a natural aphrodisiac. Because it's water-based it's safe for use with latex condoms and dental dams, and is compatible with all sex toys.
2. Province Apothecary Sex Oil is a great choice if you're looking for a long-lasting lubricant that doesn't need to be compatible with latex products. Made in Toronto from high quality certified organic, biodynamic and wildcrafted ingredients.
3. Pjur is the only silicone lubricant we recommend. Many silicone lubricants contain fillers to make it cheaper, which means it’s less likely to be hypoallergenic. Pjur, like the name implies, is pure silicone. Silicone is great for longer sessions (it stays on the surface of the skin so it doesn’t dry as fast as water-based lubricants), but I don’t recommend using it with silicone toys. The silicone lube will stick to the toy and make it sticky over time.
I hope that helps! If you have any questions, feel free to be in touch. I’m always happy to chat about lube :)
Kim & Amy Sedgwick love to discuss sex, periods, and all the other things we’re not supposed to talk about. The co-founders of Red Tent Sisters and ecosex.ca, they’ve been featured in every major Canadian news outlet and have become a trusted resource for women seeking natural (effective!) birth control, a more joyful sex life, and an empowered journey to motherhood.