From blindfolds to vibrators to strap-ons, here are the staple toys in our sexy toolkit.
By: Kim Sedgwick
When it comes to sexuality products we believe it's all about personal preference. Just because I think a toy is fabulous doesn't mean it will be compatible with your unique body, interests, and preferences.
With that said, I've had the unique privilege of testing a lot of toys over the last nine years of running Red Tent Sisters and ecosex. Some have been less than fabulous (like that lube that caused a burning sensation) while others have become staples in my bedside drawer. I wrote a similar post a few years ago and you'll notice that many of the toys mentioned there are still favourites today. What can I say - if it ain't broke, don't fix it! That said, I thought it was time for a little update.
Here’s what you’ll currently find in my goodie drawer:
JimmyJane Form 2
I'm always on the hunt for a good clitoral vibe. Not only do I use them solo, but I also incorporate them into partner play. I'm currently loving the Form 2 by JimmyJane which features a flexible "rabbit ear" design that is a little different than traditional "bullet" vibes and allows for some fun experimentation. It also has multiple speeds and settings, is fully waterproof, and rechargeable.
It never ceases to amaze me how much a blindfold can enhance a sexual experience. That's why it's one of my favourite things to suggest to folks who want to shake things up. An extra perk is they're budget-friendly! In a pinch I make one out of whatever I've got around (scarf, pashmina), but I much prefer to use my Whisper blindfold which feels (and looks) luxurious. Plus, it's a comfy mask to sleep in. Blocking out light at night can help to regulate your hormones which you know we're all about!
I also have the matching ankle and wrist restraints. I learned the hard way to stay away from poorly designed restraints (trust me, those metal police-style cuffs are considered a novelty item for a reason!) I only use these ones from Leatherbeaten and the cumfy cuffs from Aslan.
Aslan Jaguar Harness
I vividly remember the first time I wore the Jaguar strap-on from Aslan. It was more comfortable than I could have imagined and it looked amazing (I felt so sexy!) It's been a staple ever since. Aslan Leather makes the best harnesses on the market and they're located right here in Toronto. You'll see them used in tons of films, including ones by Tristan Taormino and Shine Louise Houston.
Finding a good anal toy can be tricky. Size is obviously an important factor, plus you want it to stay in place (they have a tendency to slip out), and be easy to clean.
Over the years I’ve had a few butt plugs that I liked, but the Njoy is the one that has the status of being in my bedside drawer. It covers all the bases –the curved design keeps it in the right spot, it’s made from non-porous stainless steel, and it’s so pretty!
My other favourite is the Pro-Touch which is designed for prostate stimulation. It's featured in Tristan Taormino's sex ed anal play videos and it's been a hit with partners.
Of all the dildos we carry, Perk is my fave. Partly I love that it’s made by Happy Valley, a family-owned company that handcrafts all their toys in a 100-year-old farmhouse (how cute is that?!) but more importantly, I find it’s the perfect size and shape. It's not too big, not too small, with just the right amount of texturing. Personally I don’t like toys that look too realistic so I’m also a fan of the bright blue colour.
We're closing the virtual doors to our sister site, ecosex, on May 23rd. If you'd like to give any of the toys above a try, now's a great time! All in-stock items are 20-70% off.
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Kim & Amy Sedgwick love to discuss sex, periods, and all the other things we’re not supposed to talk about. The co-founders of Red Tent Sisters and ecosex.ca, they’ve been featured in every major Canadian news outlet and have become a trusted resource for women seeking natural (effective!) birth control, a more joyful sex life, and an empowered journey to motherhood.